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Halachos & Minhagim for Yomim Noraim

Erev Rosh Hashana
- Some have a custom to fast on Erev Rosh Hashana until chatzos (midday). 
- One should participate in Hataras Nedorim (nullification of vows) after shacharis. At times we make promises and fail to keep them. Non-fulfillment of halachically binding vows is a serious transgression and as such we seek to release ourselves if we have articulated binding vows over the course of the year. One can recite this formulation in Hebrew or any language one understands.  
- Many have the custom go to the mikvah on Erev Rosh Hashana. 
While the day of Rosh Hashana can be viewed as a day of awe and judgment, the sages have taught us that we must go into the day with confidence and a feeling of celebration. Therefore, it is important to be well-groomed in honor of the day.  
- There is a custom to visit and daven at the graves of relatives and tzadikkim on Erev Rosh Hashana. We ask Hashem to allow us to utilize the merits of our ancestors. One should give tzedaka before praying at the cemetery.  

Rosh Hashana 
Shehechiyanu: The bracha of shehechiyanu is recited during kiddush and candle lighting.  

Simanim: There are various customs regarding the simanim (symbolic foods) that are eaten on Rosh Hashana. One should follow their family customs regarding what is included. If one does not have or know the family minhag, the following is a list of symbolic items which can be included:
- Challah dipped in honey  
- Apple dipped in honey 
- Carrots or fenugreek 
- Leek or cabbage 
- Beets 
- Dates
- Gourd
- Pomegranate  
- Fish  
- Head of a fish 
When eating the simanim the proper prayer should be said prior to eating (Artscroll Machzor, pages 96-98). There is a difference of opinion as to whether it is the eating of these simanim or the accompanying prayer which is the essence. The simanim are another way of beseeching God’s blessing for a sweet year full of opportunity for growth and accomplishment. There is a custom not to eat nuts on Rosh Hashana. 

New Fruit: One should have a new fruit on the second night of Rosh Hashana. The fruit should be present during candle lighting and kiddush when the bracha of shehecheyanu is recited.  

Shofar: One should preferably be in Shul to hear all 100 blasts of the shofar. If one is not able to be in shul for all 100 blasts, one can fulfill his/her obligation to hear the shofar by hearing the first 30 blasts which are blown immediately following the blessings. Women who are caring for young children can fulfill their obligation with the initial 30 blasts.  

Tashlich: After mincha on the first day of Rosh Hashana, one should go to a body of water to say the tefilla of Tashlich; in which we symbolically cast away our sins in an effort to cleanse and start again. We will be reciting Tashlich following Mincha on first day of Rosh Hashana.  

Napping: Many have the custom to avoid napping on Rosh Hashana. We must make sure to maximize the power of this sacred day. 

Seudos: The mitzva of v’samachta b’chagecha (to rejoice on Yom Tov) applies on Rosh Hashana just like any other Yom Tov. Therefore, one should make sure to have two seudos (meals) each day of Rosh Hashana. Yaale V’yavo is said in Birkas HaMazon, although Birkas HaMazon is not repeated if Yaale V’yavo is forgotten.  

Aseres Yimaei T’shuva (10 Days of Repentance): 
Insertions in Teffilos: The following insertions or changes are made to the Shemona Esrei prayer beginning with Rosh Hashana: 
- In the bracha of Ata Kadosh we say Hamelech Hakadosh instead of Ha’el Hakadosh. If one forgot the change, or is unsure if he remembered the change, he must repeat the amida.  
- In the bracha of Hashiva Shofteinu, we end with Hamelech Hakadosh instead of "Melech ohev tzedaka umishpat". If one used the regular conclusion to the bracha he does not repeat.  
- There are four other insertions made throughout the amida, they are: zachreinu l’chaim, mi chamocha, u’chsov and besefer chaim. If these insertions are forgotten, the amida is not repeated.  

General conduct and stringencies: It is appropriate to be more attentive to our general conduct during the period between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. This includes general conduct such as our personal relationship with Hashem, as well as our interpersonal relationships. There are some who accept added halachic stringencies upon themselves during this time, such as consuming only Chalav Yisroel and Pas Yisroel.  In this same vein, we must be exceptionally meticulous in our interpersonal relationships, exerting great attentiveness in how we talk, treat others and conduct ourselves. 

Erev Yom Kippur
- It is customary to perform the atonement ritual of Kapparos (using a chicken or money).

- One should attempt to settle disputes and ask forgiveness from those who they may have harmed. One should be willing to forgive those who have wronged them. 

- There is a custom for a man to go to the mikvah (ritual bath). 

There is a custom to go to the gravesite of relatives and tzadikim to daven (pray). One who does go to the cemetery should bear in mind that the prayers are not directed to the deceased, rather they are praying to Hashem to accept their tefillos (prayers) in the merit of the deceased. One should also give tzedakah (charity) before praying in the cemetery.

- During mincha we recite the Viduy in the silent Amida.

- Many have a custom to bless their children on Erev Yom Kippur (ArtScroll Yom Kippur Machzor, page 32).

- There is a mitzvah to eat on Erev Yom Kippur. Some eat a formal meal in the morning.  After mincha the seudas hamafsekes is eaten (the last meal before the fast begins). One who finishes the meal long before the fast begins may continue to eat until the time the fast starts. The seudah hamafsekes is a celebratory meal reflecting our optimism and anticipatory excitement for the year ahead.   

One should light a yahrtzeit (memorial) candle at the onset of the fast. Many have a custom to light additional yahrtzeit candles for each deceased parent.

 

Yom Kippur Evening

- One should don his tallis before sunset (one may put it on after sunset if necessary).

- Many men have the custom to wear a kittel (white robe) on Yom Kippur.

- All restrictions (listed below) begin at sunset on Yom Kippur evening.

 

Yom Kippur Day (The Five Restrictions)

Fasting - The prohibition to eat or drink on Yom Kippur is of Biblical nature and is therefore different than other fasts throughout the year. One who has difficulty fasting or needs to take medication on Yom Kippur should consult their Rabbi.

Bathing and Washing - One may not wash for pleasure. Washing hands after waking up or after using the restroom is permitted although the custom is to only wash until the end of the knuckles. Kohanim wash their hands fully hand before Birkas Kohanim.

Anointing - Anointing (smearing or rubbing oils or lotions) for pleasure is forbidden.

Wearing Shoes - One may not wear leather shoes on Yom Kippur.

Marital Relations - Marital relations are prohibited.

 

Havdalah/End of Fast

- While one should wait until after havdalah to eat, one may drink water beforehand if needed. In such a case he/she should say “Baruch hamavdil bein kodesh l’chol”.

- Havdalah includes three blessings: hagafen (on wine), borei meorei ha’aish (on fire) and hamavdil (for distinction). - - - There is no bracha on besamim (on scent).

- The fire for ha’aish (fire) is to be lit from a candle that was lit before Yom Kippur (the memorial candle).

- Some have the custom to begin with Sukkah preparations after breaking the fast.

Wed, April 30 2025 2 Iyyar 5785